Holiday season highlights rise in estrangement
CMHA North Bay and District available to discuss why disconnection is increasing and how people can find community
The holiday season can be especially challenging for people experiencing estrangement, a complex social phenomenon that is becoming increasingly common in Canada and globally.
Canadian Mental Health Association (CMHA) North Bay and District (NBD) representatives are available for media interviews to provide information about the rise in estrangement, why it is becoming more prevalent, and how individuals can find connection and support.
Estrangement refers to the intentional distancing or separation from family members or other significant relationships. While research is limited, a recent study out of Cornell University suggests that as many as 27% of adults in a large-scale U.S. survey reported that they are estranged from at least one family member.[1] Anecdotal evidence from psychologists across Canada indicates this trend is on the rise.[2]
Experiences of shame, loneliness, guilt, sadness, and anger are common among those who are estranged. These emotions are often intensified during the holidays, a period saturated with idealized portrayals of family harmony.
“Many people find the holiday season to be a stark reminder of what’s missing, including loved ones and meaningful relationships,” said Mary Davis, CEO of CMHA North Bay and District.
“Connection is vital to mental health, especially for those on a recovery journey,” Davis continued. “Our Peer Support programs and the upcoming event bring together people with a common lived experience to help foster belonging and understanding and share practical coping strategies.”
Estrangement is complex. Common contributing factors include abuse, neglect, conflicting values, cultural or generational clashes, colonial trauma, mental health challenges, and substance use.
In recent years, conversations about distancing from “toxic” relationships have become widespread on social media, reflecting a societal shift toward prioritizing well-being. For some, estrangement can feel liberating; for others, it brings a profound and unique form of grief. For those in recovery, the loss of connection can have a significant impact on healing.
“The holidays can be an especially challenging time for individuals experiencing estrangement,” said Emily Colby, a psychotherapist with the organization’s Addiciton Services programs. “We are bombarded by images of idealized family life, which can heighten the sense of loss or disconnection. Estrangement is more common in Canada than many people realize, and its prevalence is growing,” she added.
“While the reasons behind estrangement are often nuanced and deeply personal, the human need for connection remains fundamental. This holiday season, we want to remind our service users and our community that everyone is worthy of love, belonging, and healthy relationships.”
CMHA NBD is also hosting a community event, dubbed Connection Café.
What: Connection Café
Fostering connection through self-care, shared experiences and hope
When: Thursday, Dec. 11, 1 - 3:30 p.m.
Where: 176 Main St. West (2nd floor boardroom)
(This event is closed to media, however interviews with participants can be arranged upon request.)
Notes for Editors/Reporters
CMHA NBD representatives are available for interviews that explore:
- The definition and common drivers of family estrangement.
- The connection between estrangement, loneliness, and mental health.
- The importance of connection in the recovery journey.
- Details of the CMHA NBD Peer Support programs and the community workshop.
[1] (Dean, 2020)
[2](Alencar, 2025)
